Looking through my old Sheezyart.
Side note: Cyberbullying fucking SUCKS. Don’t do it! Even if it’s funny to you at the time,it is NEVER FUNNY TO THE VICTIM. Seriously. I hate using this as a thing, but this totally applies here: you don’t know what kind of other shit is going on in their life, so don’t push them to where they can’t take it anymore.
What kind of shit happens in your own life is not an excuse to take it out on others in a mean way. EVER. I understand that some people look down on people who blame bullies for being depressed or doing harmful things, but maybe you would understand if you were on the other end of this. People tend to feel bad for the bully because something bad happened to them in some other unrelated way. They victimize the bully, when the true victim is struggling with verbal and possibly physical abuse from said bully. Maybe they’re both victims of something. If you can see with your own two eyes that someone is being intentionally mean to another person, you stop it right there. Get a qualified or trusted individual’s help. Dear adults, it is probably not just a “phase.” If they feel threatened, physically or verbally, they have every right to want some help. The victim is not “over-reacting.” The victim is not responsible because they like certain things, have a disability, or are obvious about their orientation. No one else needs to care. It doesn’t affect you if someone is gay. It doesn’t affect you if they choose to learn a second language. And you most certainly are not the one being hurt by another’s learning or physical disability. Telling them “he/she is probably experiencing parental pressure at home” should not excuse them. If you think they need help, then do it. But someone is asking you for help right the fuck now and you are blowing them off by excusing -and even defending - the offending party. School counselors are the worst about this. (Pro-tip: never trust a counselor whose first question is about why you aren’t on a certain side of politics.)
Next time you’re feeling like pushing someone around, think: “Is this really going to impact my own life in a positive way?” Probably not. If you are over the age of 18, you could even be arrested for violent acts or even verbal threats if they are bad enough.
If you feel like you are going to do something harmful to yourself no matter the reason, please attempt to get help. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or a help line, allow someone to try and make a difference to you.
“Cyber bullying” is something that I hear about a lot in the news. It wasn’t until I re-read some of the comments and hidden away personal messages that this was what was going on. Maybe if I would have shown the physical words to someone, they would have listened? Maybe not.